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Have you ever wished you could stop worrying about what others think about you?
Does the fear of being judged hold you back?
I’ll be honest with you, for most of my life I’ve let the fear of being judged hold me back. I’ve let other peoples opinions shape my life (especially my parents!) and this stopped me chasing my dreams.
I’m happy to say that now I have (mostly) stopped worrying about what others think of me and it’s freed up so much energy.
It can make you feel stuck and stay small in life!
I feel true freedom when I’m living my life how I want, without worrying about what others think of me.
Because let’s face it, people will think what they want and we can’t have any control over that. The only thing we can control is how we feel about ourselves!
Therefore you may as well focus on feeling flipping amazing with yourself, rather than wasting your time on other peoples opinions!
So How Do You Stop Worrying About What Others Think?
Stop Taking Things Personally
In the amazing book The Four Agreements, the second agreement is don’t take anything personally. It basically says that everyone’s reactions are really a projection of their own stuff.
If someone is judging you, it really is just about how they feel about themselves. Everyone is a mirror of what’s going on inside.
When we remember this, it’s easier to let go of other peoples judgements and opinions.
Nothing is ever really about us, when people feel insecure about things, they judge and attack others about it. If they don’t feel secure about themselves, they will never feel secure about what you are doing.
This is especially true when it comes to your dreams, if people don’t believe that what you are doing is possible, they will make sure you know about it.
Our belief systems create our judgements.
Therefore, remember that everyone’s opinions and criticisms are just about them, not you!!
Stop Judging Other People
When we are feeling insecure, it can be easy to judge others. However, when we judge, our minds are quick to think everyone else is judging us too.
We have to do the work on feeling secure in ourselves and a big part of this is letting go of judgement.
How can we get upset if people are judging us when we are doing it ourselves?
Learn to have compassion for everyone, including yourself.
If you find yourself judging, you can say this great affirmations by Louise Hay “They are doing the best they can, with the understanding, knowledge and awareness they have at the time”
The less you judge, the less you will feel judged.
Remember, what you put your attention on grows!!
Focus On How You Want Your Life To Be
It’s time to start living your life the way you want to. So many of us live a life we feel we are supposed to because we are afraid of what other people might think.
When we aren’t living the life we want, we are giving our power to other people.
I did this for 20 years. Seriously, I went into a career my parents told me I should.
I was miserable!!
It took me a long time to change that. So much time wasted!!
So start writing a plan of how YOU want to live your life.
Do you want to start a business? Do you want to work from home? Do you want to live by the sea?
It all starts with a plan and the more you life your life the way you want to, the happier you will be. And the less likely you will care about what others think because you will be in your happy place!!
There Will Always Be Haters
Last note, there will always be haters. Even Oprah has haters. It’s just part of life.
Just know that this is their insecurities and does not take away from your amazingness!
Do you think Oprah gives a crap about her haters……HELL NO!!
Block them out if you need to. But whatever you do, don’t let them get into your head!!
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Let me know in the comments below about any techniques you have used to stop worrying about what others think!!
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