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I’m always looking for ways that you can improve your self-worth. One of the best ways I have found is by stepping into your feminine energy.
I first discovered this concept about 6 months ago. I’m not going to lie, it was quite hard to make these changes. It turns out I had been more in my masculine energy and I didn’t even realise.
So, of course, it took me a while to get to the place where I’m more in my feminine than masculine.
It does get easier!
The main thing is it really helped me see the amazing woman I am.
It helped me feel worthy and I didn’t expect it to!
So if you are looking to improve your self-worth, I can guarantee this will help!
“Allow yourself to radiate your feminine light.”Miya Yamanouchi
Improve Your Self-Worth with Self-Care
The best thing you can do to improve your self-worth is stepping up your self-care game! When we take care of ourselves, we are showing ourselves that we are worthy of love.
We value ourselves when we practice self-care; we are putting our needs first! The wonderful thing about self-care is the more we do it, the better we feel about ourselves.
For me, self-care is not just the big things, such as going for a massage or spa, but all the little things we do for ourselves too. Even treating yourself to a coffee or smoothie is self-care!
It can be so easy, especially if you have kids, to forget about your own needs and wants. That’s why self-care is so important. Doing things that bring you joy will help you feel really good about yourself, you will become a lot happier and able to handle life better.
So make a self-care plan!!
Write a list of all the things that you love, bring you joy or make you feel relaxed. Write as many things as you can, you can even download my FREE Printable HERE!
Do at least 3 things on your list every day!! I know it might sound like a lot but I try to do as many as I can a day, even if it’s a lot of little ones!
The more self-care you do, the more you will feel loved and valued!!
Fill your cup up!!
Learn to Live in the Moment
Feminine energy is all about being, whereas masculine energy is all about doing. In our busy modern lives, it is so easy to be in our masculine energy more.
However, hustling, trying to fix things and taking action all the time is exhausting. It wasn’t until I started learning and practising being more in my feminine energy, that I felt how much more natural this felt.
We are divine feminine beings
I practice mindfulness a lot, I try to live in the moment and let go of my to-do list as much as possible. I’m trying to live more in the flow, rather than trying to force things to happen and overwork myself.
So really try to experience your life in the moment.
Self-care can help with this!
I don’t know about you but when I’m always doing, in action mode or just hustling all the time, things just feel hard. I may get the results I want but I can feel so worn out that it doesn’t even feel that good.
However, when I relax and only take INSPIRED action, things flow more. Then the things I want usually come to me easier and I can enjoy them more.
This is something I am still working on but it soon becomes a habit.
Lean back. Be the flower, not the bee!
Let go of the Past to Improve Your Self-Worth
A big lesson for me was not living in the past. I found this hard because I had PTSD.
I’m not saying you should ignore your hurt and push it down here. What I am saying is you need to work through it, so you can let it go.
This was hard for me at first. I used to avoid looking at my past but it would show up in my life because I wasn’t working through it.
Over the last 9 months (yes it can take a long time!) I have done a lot of healing work. This helped me let go of my story that because I had been hurt in the past, I would always be a victim.
Staying in victim mode keeps you in the past.
However, when you honour your feelings, work through them, you can let them go.
Do whatever you need to do to work through your pain, so you can let it go and step into your power.
Feminine energy is all about living in the moment, so letting go of past pain will free up your energy to be able to do this.
Along with doing therapy, I used EFT every day to clear my past. It’s an amazing tool to clear old hurt and limiting beliefs.
Sometimes you just have to think, is this past pain worth my future happiness. That can sometimes be enough for you to let it go.
Let go of Control
If we feel out of control with our lives, we can sometimes start to try and control everything. But this never works.
Letting go of control is powerful.
What I mean is letting go of the things you cannot control. The only thing you can control is yourself and how you react to life.
So stop thinking about what other people are doing to you, think about how you can change the way it affects you.
Trying to control others and situations will just make you feel frustrated and stressed out.
Bring the focus back onto you!
When I started to do this (I’m not perfect by the way!!) my life really turned around. When great things happen in my life, I now know they happened for a reason, not because I tried to control this situation.
So when I start to feel frustrated with my life, I think “am I trying to control something?”
It turns out that I usually am!
So I let go of the control and bring the focus back onto myself.
You may not think you try to control things but we all do it. We do it to try and protect ourselves but it doesn’t really work.
So learn to let go of the things you can’t control and focus on the things you can!
Learn to Receive
The wonderful thing about feminine energy is the gift of receiving. I used to find this so hard, I still do, but the more we can receive with grace the happier we will be.
Receiving is feminine!
When we learn to receive, we are showing ourselves and the world that we are worthy of great things.
How many times have you brushed off a compliment or straight away given one back to take the focus off you?
So many women do this. It’s like we have been taught not to value ourselves enough to accept compliments, help or gifts.
You will feel a great shift in yourself when you learn to receive. When I receive gracefully I noticed more and more people wanted to help me or give me compliments.
What we focus on grows!!
When we are open to receiving, we have the space to let great things into our lives.
So next time someone gives you a compliment, simply say “thank you”
The same goes when someone offers to help, accept the help!!
You will be surprised at how good this feels!!
“Since we have been out of balance so heavily towards the male, it is going to be the feminine energy which will now move into a place of enormous influence and enormous impact, as that energy creates a confluence of all the energies surrounding our experience of deities, of the Tao of God, and our expression of that experience in our daily lives.”Neale Donald Walsch
Have More Fun
Feminine energy is all about living in the moment and having fun!!
Life can feel so serious as a grown-up. When I look back to when I was depressed, everything felt serious. I had hardly any fun in my life.
This, of course, made me feel even more miserable.
Life is meant to be fun and the more fun you have, the better you feel and the more you improve your self-worth!
So make sure you write some fun things on your self-care list!!
My favourite fun things to do are
- Going out with friends
- Shopping with friends
- Watching comedy
It’s all about feeling good!
Do you find it hard to be in your feminine energy? Let me know in the comments below how you like to be in your feminine energy!