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Contents
- 1 Get Unstuck by Becoming Aware of Your Behaviours
- 2 What Beliefs are Behind this Addiction to Struggle
- 3 Change Your Behaviours That are Keeping you Stuck
- 4 Inner Child Work
- 5 Use EFT to Get Unstuck and let go of Struggle
- 6 Use Mindfulness and Meditation to get Unstuck
- 7 Have Self-Compassion for This Addiction to Struggle
- 8 In Conclusion
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Are you finding it hard to get unstuck in life?
We all have moments when we feel stuck in our lives. However, if you are finding it difficult to create change, you may be subconsciously addicted to struggle.
If so, you are not alone. Many of us have become addicted to the struggle. It can be challenging to break free from this pattern of behaviour.
The addiction to struggle is a trap that can keep us stuck in a never-ending cycle of stress and anxiety.
It can leave us feeling exhausted and depleted, even when we achieve the goals we have set for ourselves. This addiction can be fuelled by our past experiences or conditioning from society, making it challenging to break free from.
But the good news is that it is possible to let go of the addiction to struggle. By becoming aware of behaviours that keep us stuck and creating change, we can move into a life of peace.
By practicing mindfulness, we can become aware of our thoughts, feelings, and behaviours and learn to change our patterns.
It’s important to remember that letting go of the addiction to struggle is a process that takes time and effort. It requires us to be patient with ourselves and to seek support from those around us.
But by taking small steps each day, we can begin to break free from this addiction. This will help us live a more fulfilling and joyful life.
Get Unstuck by Becoming Aware of Your Behaviours
Awareness is the first step to change. By becoming aware of our self-sabotaging behaviours, we can start to replace them with healthier ones.
Over the next few weeks, become aware of any behaviours that don’t serve you.
These behaviours are what’s keeping us stuck in the struggle.
One thing I used to do subconsciously, was to look for problems everywhere. A lot of people have the habit of complaining about things. This can lead to looking for more problems to complain about.
When I dropped this behaviour, I instantly felt more peace in my life. My relationships improved and I felt a lot lighter and happier.
How can you tell if a behaviour is sabotaging your life, it wont feel good when you are doing it. Take note of everything you do that isn’t in alignment with your highest self.
What Beliefs are Behind this Addiction to Struggle

When you have become aware of your behaviours that are keeping you stuck, it’s time to understand why you are doing them.
For every behaviour, ask yourself “what limiting belief is behind this?”
I noticed that the reason I was looking for problems in others was because I’d been hurt in the past. So my mind was searching for problems, to protect me. My mind thought I would get hurt again.
However, this didn’t serve me at all because most of the time these problems were small and things I didn’t need to get upset about.
By understanding what was driving these behaviours, we can then start to change them
Change Your Behaviours That are Keeping you Stuck
Sometimes all it takes to change behaviours is by becoming aware of them. Others take a little work.
You can start by looking at the belief behind the behaviour and create some affirmations to change the belief.
For me, I started to affirm that I was safe, and the people I love would never hurt me.
Another way to make changes is when you feel the urge to self-sabotage, do something that will help you feel calm and safe.
The following techniques can help you interrupt these patterns:
Inner Child Work

Comforting your inner child can help you feel safe and loved. Whenever you feel triggered or upset, or you start to complain about your life, give your inner child some love.
Go within and give yourself what you need to heal this belief.
You can read more on how to do inner child work here
Use EFT to Get Unstuck and let go of Struggle
Another way that can help change your beliefs and let go of the struggle is doing EFT.
EFT is a great way to calm down the nervous system and help you shift your beliefs.
Every time you feel like you are self-sabotaging, doing EFT will help you release the this.
You can find out how to do EFT here.
Use Mindfulness and Meditation to get Unstuck
By practicing mindfulness and meditation every day, you are learning to quiet your mind and connect to your higher self.
Meditation now only calms the body and nervous system, it also clears your racing thoughts. Making it easier to find the answers you need.
Here is a meditation to help you with self-sabotage:
Have Self-Compassion for This Addiction to Struggle
Yes, we have self-sabotaging behaviours but it’s important to remember these behaviours are trying to keep us safe.
So make sure you have a lot of love and compassion for yourself with this process.
When these behaviours show up, thank them for keeping you safe in the past and release them with love. Something that helps me is telling my fears and doubts I love them. They instantly lose their power when I give them love.
We have been brought up to live in fear and that struggle is normal, there’s no wonder that a lot of us subconsciously create more in our lives.
Take responsibility for now but never blame yourself any past behaviours and ways of thinking. Blame will get you nowhere. Release it will love.
In Conclusion
Letting go of the addiction to struggle is a journey that requires self-awareness, patience, and compassion.
By becoming aware of our behaviours, changing them, and cultivating mindfulness, we can begin to break free from the cycle of struggle and find inner peace.
Remember that this is a process, and it’s okay to take small steps each day.
Seek support from friends, family, or a therapist if needed, and celebrate your progress along the way. With time and effort, you can let go of the addiction to struggle and live a more fulfilling and joyful life.
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Hi, I’m Laura. I’m a blogger and coach. I help women up their level of self-worth by reprogramming their minds to manifest their desires by using The Law of Assumption!
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