How To Stop Hating Your Feelings

Being tender and open is beautiful. As a woman, I feel continually shhh’ed. Too sensitive. Too mushy. Too wishy washy. Blah blah. Don’t let someone steal your tenderness. Don’t allow the coldness and fear of others to tarnish your perfectly vulnerable beating heart. Nothing is more powerful than allowing yourself to truly be affected by things.Zoe Deschannel

We are often told that it’s not OK to feel upset, angry or hurt by other people. That we should ignore any negativity and not let things get to us but how healthy is this approach?

I’ve heard it all before:

“Get out of your emotions”

“Just be happy”

“Don’t let them bother you”

“Just move on, it’s in the past”

“Just ignore them, that’s just how [insert name here] acts, it’s not personal

How many times do we hear this when we are talking about things that have hurt us??

People around us might be trying to help or just don’t know what to say but what if this is actually damaging us and stopping us from really dealing with things.

What tends to happen is this; we start to hate our emotions and push them as far down as possible, instead of dealing with them. We beat ourselves up for feeling angry or upset; we think we aren’t perfect because we let someone or something get to us.

The truth is that you are allowed to feel deeply, it’s what makes you HUMAN!!

These deep feelings are the things that save us; they are telling us that something is up. They are our warning system telling us that we are out of alignment or something needs to change.

If these feeling were who we TRULY are, they wouldn’t make us feel so freaking uncomfortable!!

So stop hating on your feelings and start thanking them.

Thank your emotions for guiding you.

Thank your emotions for truly being there for you.

And accept the way you feel right now. It’s OK to feel angry, it’s OK to feel hurt and it’s OK to be pissed off at someone who has treated you badly.

Now this doesn’t mean that you should get aggressive or take your anger out on anyone but it does mean that you have the right to stand up for yourself and say why you’re angry.

Don’t be ashamed to speak your truth!!

And don’t let people tell you that you have no right to feel upset!

Love your emotions; they help you in so many ways!!

Big love

L  xx