When I first thought of this concept my daughter was about to reach double figures (she was 9 at the time) and already I could see her insecurities.
I thought back to when I was younger and because I had low self-esteem I let people treat me however they wanted to. I had trouble with most of my family, friends and boyfriends.
I suffered a lot of abuse in my life time and I didn’t want that for my daughter. It made me think, if I had better self-esteem, would I have let people treat me that way and let it affect me so much?
I don’t think I would.
So if girls could create strong self-worth (Female Worth), then they would stand a better chance of building strong, healthy relationships, with others and themselves.
They would live a more fulfilled and happier life. Since then I have been on a journey to find my own Female Worth and to feel good about myself.
It’s been 3 years and the journey has been a bumpy one. It’s taken me a long time to figure it all out and feel clear on what it means to have Female Worth.
At first I thought it was all about being successful and super confident but soon realised this wasn’t the case. I now know it’s all about being comfortable being yourself.
You can have all the confidence in the world but if you’re not being yourself, then it’s not real.
I went from being in 15k worth of debt, trying to have all the stylish things to make myself look like I had it all figured out, to buying all my stuff from charity shops.
Buying all these things to look good didn’t work; it just filled my house up and made me miserable.
So I let it go.
I went from trying to look like everyone else, to never wearing makeup. I don’t think there is anything wrong with makeup but I know it’s not for me and I’ve learned to like myself without it.
I also stopped trying to be a “success” just to impress everyone or prove them wrong. I’ve slowly learned to focus on the things that bring me joy and do more of what I love.
My success looks different from everyone else’s and that’s ok.
It’s about learning what lights you up and doing more of that. It’s about learning to be true to your needs and wants.
So Female Worth is about knowing who you really are and fully expressing that truth.
Even if that truth isn’t the “norm” and letting go of what others think of you. It’s about letting go of need for approval from other people and giving it to yourself.
It’s about giving yourself compassion, respect, acceptance and love.
It’s about feeling good in your own skin and feeling good about who you truly are.
I’m still on that journey and every day I learn more and more about myself. The point here is to enjoy the ride, instead of getting so hung up on getting to the end destination.
Life isn’t a race; it’s all about enjoying the experience and growing as a person.
It’s time to start enjoying who you are because there is only one YOU!!