The ultimate happiness is doing nothingZhuangzi
The new year started so well for me, I was feeling energised and ready to start smashing my goals. By the end of the first week I became feeling ill, tired and I was definitely not where I wanted to be.
I had to spend a few days resting and hadn’t made much progress at all.
This was not how I imagined the new year to be.
I had made all these goals and planned out how I wanted my life to be. I had expected my life to look perfect from January 1st!
So why didn’t my life look perfect?
I did not want to feel like this for the rest of January, let alone the year, so I did a little research.
A New Perspective
Before I had my son, I did a lot of work around my cycle and learning to listen to my body. I read this amazing book called Woman Code by Alisa Vitti around being in flow with your cycle.
I started to learn about the four different stages of our cycle, which are like the seasons of the year.
1. Your cycle starts with the follicular phase, which is the best time to set intentions and is like spring.
2. Then there is ovulation, which is the best time to start communicating your ideas and is like summer.
3. The luteal phase is next and this is the time for completion and is like the harvest in autumn.
4. Finally there’s the menstation phase, which is like winner. This is the best time to review and analyses how things are going.
January is in the winter, a time for reflection and rest (if you need it), so why are we making new intentions then.
The magic of Christmas has faded, it’s cold and wet outside (at least it us here in England) and all I want to do is hibernate!!
It makes perfect sense to wait until spring time to set my intentions, when I’m full of energy and enthusiasm.
So that’s what I’m gonna do.
Knowing this has taken the pressure off and I’m more relaxed and reassured that I’m right where I need to be.
So if you have already “failed” all your New Years resolutions don’t worry!!
Take this time to check your life, do lots of journaling and self care.
Lose the guilt
Learning about our cycle helps us to feel in flow and no longer feel like we are swimming against the tide!!
So instead of trying to change everything in January, do what feels good and don’t worry about the rest. It’s not a race to get to where you want to be, so enjoy the journey.
If you really want to make a change, then stick to one thing. choose one thing you want to do and give it all your focus. Most of the time we expect too much of ourselves and then beat ourselves up when we don’t achieve enough.
Slow down and enjoy the ride.
Let me know in the comments below how your January is going and what your doing to survive these cold winter months.