Women are so unforgiving of themselves. We don’t recognize our own beauty because we’re too busy comparing ourselves to other people.Kelly Osbourne
We are all guilty of it, whether it’s on social media, with our friends or at work. We are all comparing ourselves to others. Sometimes no matter how well we do, we seem to come across someone who’s done it better or who’s more successful than us.
It’s even harder now, with everyone’s life looking so perfect on Instagram or Facebook, we hardly ever see any of the struggle or what peoples real lives look like.
It’s so easy to feel not good enough!!
And even though we know it doesn’t make us feel good, it’s hard to know how do we stop?
First of all we need to understand that comparing ourselves to others is a complete waste of time and energy. We all want different things in life, we all have different values and comparing can make you lose sight of what’s important to you.
When we are so caught up in the comparison trap, we don’t see achievements; we don’t celebrate how great we are. Because we will never feel like we come close to everyone else’s ”perfect” lives.
We can also start to resent the people we love and find it hard to be happy for them.
So how can we escape??
When you notice yourself starting to compare, ask yourself “is this real?” Is this a true reflection of this person’s life or is it set up to look more than it is. Also these images are just fragments, they don’t reflect someone’s whole life.
Another way to escape is to compare yourself to yourself!!
I know this sounds weird but look back at where you were a few years ago, how far have you come?
What have you achieved?
You could make this a monthly or yearly process, where you write down where you are at and compare it to where you were previously.
Even think of where you want to be in the future, say a year from now. Compare that to where you are now and figure out what are the gaps?
Use this to help you set goals and action plans to get to where you want to be.
It’s a much more accurate, fairer and productive way to compare.
If you have any other tips or ways to escape the comparison trap, let me know in the comments below.